"What You Must Know/Do Before You Get Married As A Christian Lady"

Marriage for most people, particularly I'm Christianity is a flop. Reasons for this are largely bent on certain issues, which could come from either of the parties. For now, our focus will be on Christian ladies who have been nurturing the idea of settling down. Knowing/doing these things are necessary and if you didn't know them (say you're married), I believe it's never too late to make amends. So, here goes.

1. Discuss with your father to tell you who a man is: It is no longer a rumour that most children easily open up to their mothers than their fathers.Concerning marriage in Christianity, it is important a lady take counsel from the father on who a man is. This is one of the reasons marriage for most ladies is a flop. The best a mother could give to her daughter is her perspective on how she treated her husband, the lady's father. For example, if it happens that the father washes his clothes himself (trust me, this is real) and has been doing so for years, the mother who sees nothing wrong with it would tell her daughter to go with the flow. This is why some women feel that a man is just another woman in marriage. Far from it. Summon courage and have your father enlighten you on who a man really is.

2. You are NOT equal partners: Forget the feministic movements, most of them stem from failed homes and they think they now know better. According to the Scriptures, the woman, upon agreeing to marry the man, is agreeing to come under subjection of such man. What this means is that he is the head and has the final authority in the home (Eph 5:22-23). Unlike the dictates of the Scripture, most couples today have their own definition. They tend to think they're equal partners. This ought not to be. When you come under someone's authority, it means you obey that person totally. Don't ever delve into a union as a marriage with your own definition.

3. Husband means LORD or MASTER: I know most ladies will protest at the sight of this, but it's true. Old Norse say the word means "House Dweller or The Male Head in a house". According to the Scriptures, the first woman that birthed the word, Sarah, used it on the husband (Gen 18:12; 1Pet 3:6). You must understand that a man is the Lord of his house and those under his roof, including you. Up until now, people use the word to refer to the person they are married to without knowing what it means. Fathers understand this. Again, it explains why you must consult your father before you move in with that man you want to marry.

4. You must be willing to understand him: I will give an analogy to drive him this point; you see, a man loves the one he serves (his boss at his workplace) and the one who serves him (his wife). He fights the one that tries to be at the same level with him. When you fail to understand a man, you assume the role of that person that tries to be at the level with him. The reaction you get afterwards is that of his contenders. He fights you to learn your place because he is programmed that way. He doesn't enjoy rivalry. So, when you bring your own definition into the union, he fights it off, not because he doesn't love you but because he sees you as a threat, a rival. You think he is the one to understand you, wrong. He will understand you until you have learned to understand him.

5. Your beauty is in obedience: Irrespective of what you have possessed before marrying him, you're not beautiful until have learned the place of obedience. An obedient woman is not only considered beautiful but wise and the Scriptures confirms this in Pro 14:1. Should you fail to obey, you become a rebel and God would in no way accept your actions (1Pet 3:2).

6. You are a HELP in the union: Why did God create the woman? She was created because the man was alone (not lonely). Gen 2:18,

And the Lord God said, "it is not good that the man should be alone, I will make him an HELPMEET for him"

. God had created all things save the woman. All other creatures had companion and God felt the need to provide man with a help suitable for him. Adam at the time had too many responsibilities, Just like men in this present time and God provided someone to relieve him of those things. As a lady, you must understand that you have a role to play in helping the man you have married as well as the home. I have seen homes where the woman believes she works for herself and her money is for herself and her wants. The man takes care of the family's needs. Unfortunately, their kids are above 18 already and I have heard the girls (two) on several occasions say their monies if for themselves, talk about influence. You are expected to help the family in the area he wants you to. That was why God created you in the first place.

NB: For those whose fathers may not be around (due to death or divorce/seperation). There's always a man that acts the father. Either an uncle or a married older brother, they're okay to act as a father to help she'd light on grey areas.

Happy Sunday!

from Nairaland http://ift.tt/1QOcKUD Marriage for most people, particularly I'm Christianity is a flop. Reasons for this are largely bent on certain issues, which could come from either of the parties. For now, our focus will be on Christian ladies who have been nurturing the idea of settling down. Knowing/doing these things are necessary and if you didn't know them (say you're married), I believe it's never too late to make amends. So, here goes.

1. Discuss with your father to tell you who a man is: It is no longer a rumour that most children easily open up to their mothers than their fathers.Concerning marriage in Christianity, it is important a lady take counsel from the father on who a man is. This is one of the reasons marriage for most ladies is a flop. The best a mother could give to her daughter is her perspective on how she treated her husband, the lady's father. For example, if it happens that the father washes his clothes himself (trust me, this is real) and has been doing so for years, the mother who sees nothing wrong with it would tell her daughter to go with the flow. This is why some women feel that a man is just another woman in marriage. Far from it. Summon courage and have your father enlighten you on who a man really is.

2. You are NOT equal partners: Forget the feministic movements, most of them stem from failed homes and they think they now know better. According to the Scriptures, the woman, upon agreeing to marry the man, is agreeing to come under subjection of such man. What this means is that he is the head and has the final authority in the home (Eph 5:22-23). Unlike the dictates of the Scripture, most couples today have their own definition. They tend to think they're equal partners. This ought not to be. When you come under someone's authority, it means you obey that person totally. Don't ever delve into a union as a marriage with your own definition.

3. Husband means LORD or MASTER: I know most ladies will protest at the sight of this, but it's true. Old Norse say the word means "House Dweller or The Male Head in a house". According to the Scriptures, the first woman that birthed the word, Sarah, used it on the husband (Gen 18:12; 1Pet 3:6). You must understand that a man is the Lord of his house and those under his roof, including you. Up until now, people use the word to refer to the person they are married to without knowing what it means. Fathers understand this. Again, it explains why you must consult your father before you move in with that man you want to marry.

4. You must be willing to understand him: I will give an analogy to drive him this point; you see, a man loves the one he serves (his boss at his workplace) and the one who serves him (his wife). He fights the one that tries to be at the same level with him. When you fail to understand a man, you assume the role of that person that tries to be at the level with him. The reaction you get afterwards is that of his contenders. He fights you to learn your place because he is programmed that way. He doesn't enjoy rivalry. So, when you bring your own definition into the union, he fights it off, not because he doesn't love you but because he sees you as a threat, a rival. You think he is the one to understand you, wrong. He will understand you until you have learned to understand him.

5. Your beauty is in obedience: Irrespective of what you have possessed before marrying him, you're not beautiful until have learned the place of obedience. An obedient woman is not only considered beautiful but wise and the Scriptures confirms this in Pro 14:1. Should you fail to obey, you become a rebel and God would in no way accept your actions (1Pet 3:2).

6. You are a HELP in the union: Why did God create the woman? She was created because the man was alone (not lonely). Gen 2:18,

And the Lord God said, "it is not good that the man should be alone, I will make him an HELPMEET for him"

. God had created all things save the woman. All other creatures had companion and God felt the need to provide man with a help suitable for him. Adam at the time had too many responsibilities, Just like men in this present time and God provided someone to relieve him of those things. As a lady, you must understand that you have a role to play in helping the man you have married as well as the home. I have seen homes where the woman believes she works for herself and her money is for herself and her wants. The man takes care of the family's needs. Unfortunately, their kids are above 18 already and I have heard the girls (two) on several occasions say their monies if for themselves, talk about influence. You are expected to help the family in the area he wants you to. That was why God created you in the first place.

NB: For those whose fathers may not be around (due to death or divorce/seperation). There's always a man that acts the father. Either an uncle or a married older brother, they're okay to act as a father to help she'd light on grey areas.

Happy Sunday!
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